You're 13? What's your bust size?

Newspaper headlines "You're 13? What's your bust size?"
Men prowl Internet chatrooms and lure young girls into meeting them for sex. Cheryl Tan poses as a 13-year-old schoolgirl and gets one indecent proposal after another.

May 06, 2007 The Straits Times

WITHIN four minutes of introducing himself in a local Internet relay chatroom meant for teenagers, Aauarius asked to feel my breasts. Even after knowing that I was a 13-year-old schoolgirl, he asked for my height, weight, waist measurement and size of my 'top'. Claiming his real name was Eric, 22, he offered to take me shopping and to lunch - both at his expense. 'I treat you everything tomorrow,' he promised. But I had to let him 'feel feel' me.

Eric was just one of 90 men who messaged me within minutes of entering an Internet chatroom. Even after I said that I was 13, the lewd offers still came thick and fast. These men did not seem worried that, under the law, it is illegal to have sex with a girl under the age of 16. The punishment for statutory rape is severe - the culprit will be jailed at least eight years and given a minimum 12 strokes of the cane. Despite this, the number of men reported to the police for having sex with underage girls has shot up over the last six years. Last year, the police received 217 reports of men who had sex with underage girls, almost double the 114 cases in 2001.
Just last month, three men aged between 18 and 23 were in court for having sex with a minor. The girl was only 12. The laws will be toughened soon to deal with such paedophiles.

Psychiatrist Brian Yeo said men who target young girls do so to 'feel in control'. He said they get a 'thrill' and consider it a 'conquest' when a young girl gives in to their request. Psychologist Daniel Koh added that because the young girls are sexually inexperienced, these men think they are 'easier to please'. But not all girls are that innocent, said Dr Yeo, and some crave the attention these men lavish. 'They find it fun to have men go ga-ga over their photos.'

Even though I did not have a photo to show the men who were chatting me up, many still ended up proposing a secret rendezvous. Finding out that I was only 13 did not deter 27 men from doing so. Only 10 dropped out of the chat after I said that I was 13. I could barely keep up with the chat requests and respond to everyone.

Some started slow. They made small talk before moving on to more personal questions such as what underwear I was wearing and whether I had any sexual experience. Others asked for sex from the word go. One man's opening line was: 'Want sex and quick cash?' Another guy wanted to know how short my school skirt was. A few asked for my vital statistics. One man tried to lure me out by saying that a pink bikini and denim skirt would be mine to keep if I went to his home. Some also asked if I had 'petted' before and described in graphic detail what that meant.

One man, Andy, even boasted about his experience with a 15-year-old girl at a hotel. The 26-year-old, claimed to be 'skilful' at sex and promised that I would feel no pain.

Darren, whose pick-up line was to ask if I was keen on earning $1,500, called me 'girl'. He asked for my age, my school, and why I was not in class on a Friday morning. For that amount of money, all he wanted from me was to 'accompany' him.

Going by the nickname Lucifer, the 27-year-old who claimed to be an advertising manager said he wanted us to 'chill out' together at his home. He asked to meet me at a playground near the HDB flat he lived in. He offered to pay for my cab fare to his place, which would have come up to about $20. He said we could have breakfast and watch comedy movies. He gave me his mobile number. When I got there and called him, he asked me again if I was really 13. While I waited on a slide, Darren circled the playground several times. He then disappeared behind a block of flats and hid behind a pillar. My phone rang - it was him. He claimed he did not see me at the playground and asked to meet at the lift lobby instead. When I faked unfamiliarity with the area, he finally approached me. Wearing spectacles, a bright red sweater and black bermudas, the first thing he asked me was: 'Are you the girl I chatted with online?' When I identified myself as a reporter, Darren immediately denied knowing that I was 13. Even as he tried to inch away from me, he insisted that his motive was purely innocent. He 'really just wanted to watch movies' with me at his flat.

Two hours later, a woman who claimed to be Darren's girlfriend called to say that it had been a case of 'mistaken identity'. She claimed that someone had impersonated Darren and posted his mobile phone number on the Net.

Another online chatter, who arranged to meet me at a playground in Bishan, lied about his age. Claiming to be 19, Josh wanted to 'cuddle for a bit' in his home. He later changed tack and said he was actually a 28-year-old basketball coach who trained schoolgirls as young as eight. To entice me to meet him, Josh promised to take me to lunch and shopping at Bishan Junction 8 before going to his home. Dressed in a white polo T-shirt and Adidas basketball shorts, he was calm when I said I was a reporter. Lighting up a cigarette, Josh said he wanted only to walk around with me to 'pass the time'. He also claimed that he had set up the meeting to recruit female basketballers.

The third man who coaxed me out promised a massage and the chance to watch movies which I was 'not supposed to watch yet'. Roger suggested meeting in Hotel 81 to 'get comfortable' and 'take shelter from the afternoon sun'. He brought along a laptop to play his 'movies'. Towering over me, the 32-year-old who claimed to be a computer systems engineer said he has met girls of all ages and that it was only 'for fun'. Roger did not believe I was a reporter. He continued to call me after we parted, asking if I was available to talk to him. After all those were ignored, he sent the SMS message: 'Can't chat anymore?'

tcheryl@sph.com.sg


My say:
It's a scary world out there. Behind all the smiles and greetings that we get from the friendly people we meet in the schools, offices, shopping malls and even churches. How many of them will take advantage of you when they have a chance to?

So sweet little girls, if you want to meet strangers from the online world, remember... always meet them at crowded public places in broad daylight, where there are lots of bright sunshine, and with Parental Guidance.

Hmm... but in this day and age, where gays are increasingly open about their sexuality, and more bold about posting free blow job offers on IRC and websites.... I suppose my advice is applicable to cute little boys too.